Stop Analyzing. Start Trusting.

Have you ever found yourself thinking, “If that happens, then I’ll do this... but if that happens, I’ll do that... and if they say this, I’ll respond with that…”  on and on, so on and so on?

This kind of mental rehearsal is common for people who struggle with anxiety, decision-making, and, most importantly, trust. Trust in themselves.

At first glance, analyzing every possible outcome might seem logical. It might even feel like preparation. But it’s not living in the present. It’s not trusting that you’ll know what to do when the moment comes. And when done constantly, it can be absolutely exhausting.

When we fixate on our thoughts, we smother the voice of the heart. But the heart knows. The heart whispers because it’s calm. Our thoughts, however, are loud and can be driven by the ego, pushing us toward choices the heart should be guiding.

Now, the ego isn’t always bad, nor is it the enemy. It’s just trying to protect us. It wants to plan and stay safe. But we need balance. We need to know when to pause and say, “I hear you, ego. I understand why you’re thinking this way. But right now, I’m going to let the heart lead.”

When we make space for that softer wisdom, we find that we make better decisions, ones rooted in truth, alignment, and inner peace.

Sometimes, the heart’s whisper will ruffle feathers. But it will also set your own wings free. Your path is yours, and not everyone will understand or like it. Trust it anyway.

Let me share a recent example.

I found myself worrying about my career. I wanted more benefits, which would require more hours, more work, and a string of new decisions and responsibilities. Planning for that conversation with my boss made sense. But soon, I started anticipating every possible reaction and crafting a response to each one. It turned into a game of ping-pong in my mind, and I was exhausted.

Then I stopped. I took a breath. I spoke to a close friend. I let myself say, out loud, what I actually wanted. And that’s when it hit me—the benefits I thought I needed weren’t necessary right now. I was rushing toward something that wasn’t aligned with my current path.

So I sat in stillness and asked myself, “What if I took a step back? What if I didn’t pursue more hours or more benefits?” My shoulders softened. I cried. And I felt relief. I had been stepping over my heart’s true desire: to slow down, trust more deeply in God, lean into my family’s support, and wait for the right opportunity rather than force one into existence.

Because here’s the truth: if you ask God for support and then try to control every outcome, you're not really trusting. You're not trusting that the opportunity will come. You're not trusting that you’ll recognize it when it does. You're not trusting yourself to choose wisely when the time comes.

Since that moment, I’ve felt lighter. I feel a shift. More peace, more positivity about the future, even though it’s unknown. And that’s the magic of the unknown: it holds surprises. Good or bad, we can handle them all.

Here are a few practices that help me return to trust:

• Speak out loud. Words are spells. Speaking them releases the swirl of thoughts in your mind and sets them free.

• Be honest—truly, deeply honest. Say what you mean. Own what you desire. Stop walking around the edges of your truth.

• Confide in someone you trust. Let them know if you need advice or if you just want to be heard.

• Pray—out loud. Speak to the higher power that loves you beyond measure. Let yourself feel safe, seen, and supported.

• Journal. Get those thoughts out on paper. Keep it, burn it, throw it away, just write it down.

• Nourish yourself. Go outside. Eat well. Drink water. Take your vitamins. Move your body. Treat yourself like the sacred vessel you are.

  
  

So, what can you do today to trust yourself a little more?

With love,

 Taba